Sometimes it’s only the fear of looking like a coward that pushes me into doing challenging things. And then, once I’ve done them, I look back and wonder why I was so worried.
We have to learn what to be frightened of for survival purposes and this leaves us open to absorbing other people’s irrational dread of all kinds of things. When we warn children “Be careful of .....!” or “Mind you don’t fall/hurt yourself/break your neck etc!”, however well-intentioned, we hedge them round with trepidation that can cut them off from experiencing excitement and achievement. We limit their capacity to grow.
Thinking too much about what can go wrong is an effective way of paralysing yourself.
Certainly it makes sense to have contingency plans in place. But that means not simply thinking about what can go wrong but also what you’re going to do if it does.
What are some of the things you really want to try? What’s the worst case scenario if you do? What can you do about it if it actually happens?
Arguably, one of the most unpleasant consequences is in some way to lose control of what’s going on and be dependent on someone or something else’s decisions. So the purpose of having a Plan B is to give yourself the reassurance of knowing in advance how you’re going to regain control and recover the situation. Knowing how means understanding that you can and that means that your fears shrink to manageable proportions.
Tip: Once you’re happy with your plans to deal with whatever goes wrong, make a point of taking the other extreme and visualise how your life will be when it all goes right. Give yourself a clear and detailed picture of success to work towards.